your elder loved one must move to assisted living.
Be sure to talk with your parent or loved one frequently about the changes coming. Don't minimize her or his feelings about moving out. Even in ideal situations, there can still depression, grief or sadness surrounding this kind of move. Listen, and try to be understanding vs, unflaggingly positive (comes off as disingenuous).
Don't talk about selling the home, repairs that need to be made to the house or anything else that might make your loved one feel badly about leaving.
- Ditch the Guilt
It is easy to feel guilty about moving a loved one into an assisted living facility. Guilt not only doesn't help, it can hinder the process. Take heart & strength in the understanding that, ultimately, the decision was made in the best interest for your loved one. Remember, your loved one is getting the regular care, 24 hours, that you, and no layperson, can provide.
- Help with the move
This sounds like a no-brainer, but too many Boomers hire someone to handle the move, then take a back seat. Help sort, pack, unpack or just be there for support during the move, do it without being overbearing. Try to be helpful without taking control until it's absolutely necessary
- Personalize the new space
When your parent or loved one moves into the new space, help him or her personalize it. From stocking up on supplies and moving furniture to cleaning, picking out mementos for decoration and staying for a while to hang out, you can do a lot to help your loved one feel more at home.
- Stay in contact
Once the move is made, staying in touch with both your elder and assisted living staff can help ease the burden of the transition. Is your loved one socializing? Adjusting to his/her new settings? Call and, whenever possible, visit often during the initial transition period. Once s/he has acclimated you can visit less often if that's comfortable for all.
- Be understanding
This move represents a major change and can be quite emotional. Be supportive and, most importantly, be patient.
With the right transition and support, nearly anywhere can feel like home.
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