That's because effective and personal communication creates a bond of closeness, reduces conflict, enhances relationships, and in many cases, helps you get more of what you want out of life.
And the key to all this good stuff is...
“Giving someone our full, undivided attention makes them feel appreciated, and creates a positive feeling for them about you" says life coach Jack Bennett, Ph.D, in an interview covered by grandparents.com.
And, good listeners are higher academic achievers, have better emotional development, and are more likely to get promoted at work.
And our ever-shortening attention spans don't help; according to research from the Associated Press:
The average attention span in 2012: 8 seconds
The average attention span of a goldfish: 9 seconds
GOLDFISH are more attentive than we are....Sheeeesh.
Here's 5 easy steps to get you started:
Take the person in. Be mindful of their body language and other physical clues to mood, comfort zone, etc.
Make/Keep Eye Contact
The ability to maintain eye contact is an important influencing tool that conveys care, builds connections and indicates interest, according to a Michigan State University study.
That means being totally present with somebody, quieting your own mind and stowing all devices; giving people the space to talk and share something about themselves without interruption.
Understand the “humanity of their situation” (all the circumstances surrounding it); "walk a mile" in the other person’s shoes.
Make this the year you switch from tuning out to tuning in...I guarantee you'll be happier for it.
You have been officially alerted...